When a boy is interested in her, she considers herself a prize that he must win and not phrase waiting to be completed. You may disagree about your role with boys. You may say this is all too old-fashioned and things have changed. And you would be right. Things have changed. Girls can chase boys. They can be one of the guys, and they can make a boy do everything. But when they do, they lose the prize and the mystery that God wants them to have. Girls who make the pursuit of a boy their goal in life they look needy and insecure. They don't instill confidence in boys or make them want to fight for her. They make boys lazy and complacent, and they devalue themselves. A girl with a boy is a magical thing, and when God orchestrates it, nothing is more amazing. But when you attempt to take that job away from God and do it yourself, you set yourself up for disaster. The most valuable jewel in the world isn't one that you can get at any Wal-Mart or Target; it is the one that is hard to find and comes at a great cost. You are that jewel, and your value ought to be so great that boys have to work for years to gain your affection. The harder he has to work to get you, the more he will value you. Become the rare jewel that you were meant to be, and don't give yourself away like just another piece of junk jewelry. So when it comes to love and boys, the God Girl lives like this:
1. She doesn't ever choose the love of a boy over the love of God (see Galatians 1:10).
2. She guards her hearts and doesn't give boys easy access to her deepest thoughts and feelings (see proverbs 4:23).
3. She isn't jealous (see 1 Corinthians 13:4).
4. She doesn't depend on a boy to be her source of happiness but depends on God (see Galatians 5:22).
5. She never idolizes a guy (see Exodus 20:4).
6. She never fights over a boy (see Matthew 5:44).
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Wednesday, April 13, 2011
God Girl: Boys Part 1
For this past week I have been reading a book called God Girl, written by Hayley DiMarco. In chapter two there are articles about family, strangers, enemies and BOYS. If you are a young Christian girl like me going through an "Obsession" or "Phase" with guys, please keep reading
Take a look at how a God Girl acts with boys. She isn't competitive, always trying to one-up them. She isn't one of the guys. She appreciates them for their differences and doesn't try to make them intro her best friend. She knows that a relationship with a boy is very different thing from one with a girl. She is aware of how boys think and does what she can to protect their hearts and their minds by not leading them on or tempting them. She also knows that their way of relating and hers are very different, so when she is interested in a boy, she doesn't treat him as she wants to be treated. That means that loving a boy means willing to hold back a little instead of telling him all of the details of your life. It means allowing there to be some MYSTERY, some unknowns between you. A God Girl doesn't need a boy to be fulfilled and doesn't need to be heard by him to feel complete. She doesn't ever allow the pursuit of boys to be more important than the pursuit of God, that makes her very attractive. The confidence that the God Girl has in her relationship with God allows her to not be needy or clingy. She doesn't chase boys, call them regularly, text them many times a day. She has her own life and pursuing her own purpose, and she won't allow her emotions to overshadow that. Therefore, she doesn't let boys become her OBSESSION by dreaming of them all day and talking to them all night. Though she feels feelings of excitement and anticipation in his presence she tempers that with other pursuits, choosing to keep her focus on the bigger picture.
Take a look at how a God Girl acts with boys. She isn't competitive, always trying to one-up them. She isn't one of the guys. She appreciates them for their differences and doesn't try to make them intro her best friend. She knows that a relationship with a boy is very different thing from one with a girl. She is aware of how boys think and does what she can to protect their hearts and their minds by not leading them on or tempting them. She also knows that their way of relating and hers are very different, so when she is interested in a boy, she doesn't treat him as she wants to be treated. That means that loving a boy means willing to hold back a little instead of telling him all of the details of your life. It means allowing there to be some MYSTERY, some unknowns between you. A God Girl doesn't need a boy to be fulfilled and doesn't need to be heard by him to feel complete. She doesn't ever allow the pursuit of boys to be more important than the pursuit of God, that makes her very attractive. The confidence that the God Girl has in her relationship with God allows her to not be needy or clingy. She doesn't chase boys, call them regularly, text them many times a day. She has her own life and pursuing her own purpose, and she won't allow her emotions to overshadow that. Therefore, she doesn't let boys become her OBSESSION by dreaming of them all day and talking to them all night. Though she feels feelings of excitement and anticipation in his presence she tempers that with other pursuits, choosing to keep her focus on the bigger picture.
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